Don’t fall in love with your man for his potential.  You want to bond with someone as they are now.  Sure, all signs point to him becoming successful and hard-working, but what if something occurs, like illness or disability, that would prevent that from happening?  Would you still love him?  Your man is not your project, so make sure you pick someone who you love just the way he is.

I maintained my cool during this time, we text a bit and even had a bit of a flirt but I did text a few times with suggestions to meet up that got ignored. I finally decided i would just ask whether he was still interested but in a very casual way, but got my point across, he apologised saying he’d been manic at work and that his mum wasn’t too well, but that wasn’t an excuse for not being in touch and asked me how i was, what id been up to etc. I replied with a lighthearted message saying i understood. A week then passed and nothing, so i sent another one, a bit more pressing and saying if he was ‘still being useless then fine, but can he meet me for a drink this week’ if not the i guess it’s best to leave things, but either way let me know’ He didn’t read this message for a number of days, then by the 4th day i got angry and sent a message saying ‘ or you could completely ignore me’ he then messaged me back saying he was sorry and being useless wasn’t his intention and that he was working way the previous week and would have struggled to meet me for a drink and that he said ‘sorry to have messed me around’ and hoped my broken foot was better. I replied back with a very lighthearted message also apologising for my behavouir and ended it with some fun chit chat, didnt ask any questions and didn’t suggest meeting up.

Guys become distant because we lose interest in you. It might be the way you dress, how you talk about the same problems over and over again, etc. If you wouldn’t cry, whine, cause drama about it, etc, we’d be up front and move on. But because it’s a process with potentially more talking, complaining, crying, etc… we just start to ignore you more and more until you decide you’re mad or over it. It’s just easier.


When you spend time apart, share your fun times with your man. It’s important he knows you’re able to have fun without him. After you spend a few nights away from your man, he may be happy you’re having a good time, but he’ll also become jealous. You want him to wish he’s the one helping you have fun. This is a great strategy if you want to reunite with an old flame. Make him see all of the fun he’s missing without you. If he sees how much fun you’re having his going to want to come along on your next adventure. This is also a good time to start updating your social media feed so he can see all the fun you’re having. Guys are definitely more visual creatures so give him something good to look it and he’ll be hooked, which brings us to our next step.

i miss my boyfriend , we are in highschool and usually we txt throughout the day , its just rlly nice . rn it is winter break and not only that he broke his phone , sooo rn i have to deal with missing him . there are times that i miss him incredibly much but in a way i also am "thankful" that we cant talk bc that teaches me to be more independent ( which i am use to losing when i am in a relationship ) . its a bitter sweet kinda thing .
Once you’re in a relationship, this part is especially crucial. Part of the learning curve of a new relationship is figuring out how much alone time each person needs. In most cases, there’s always going to be one person who needs more alone time than the other. Don’t take it personally if he’s the one that needs more introverted unwind time than you do.
I am from America, but I am currently studying in Europe. During a holiday I went with some friends for a trip in another country here. There I met a guy in a bar. We kissed and he walked me back to my hotel, we said good buy and he got my contact. The next day he text me and invited me for drinks because it was his last night in the city (he was also there in a trip). We went to a bar and had a nice conversation. After that I said that it would be better to be just friends (because we meet during a trip and we both live in different countries in Europe). First he kept saying that I was very special, different from the other girls, and that he didn’t want to just say good bye. But I insisted that it was better like this (given that we had just met). He was clearly very upset and he even unfriended me on Facebook. I was sad about it the next day, so I decided to text him and let him know that I liked him and we could see each other in the future if he felt the same. He said he was upset before because I acted like he didn’t mean when he said I was special and he felt like I thought he was just interested in sleeping with me. He said he already done that in the past, but that this time this wasn’t the case. Then he said he missed me and booked a flight to visit me one month after. We were talking everyday through messages and some days in Skype (he would take the initiative). He came to my city for 3 days and we had a great time. During his last day in my town he seemed a bit distant or sad, but he gave the impression that he would like to visit me again. When I said I could visit him in his town he seemed really happy. But, the problem is that I will return to America in two months. So, my idea was to see him at least one more time before that, but I didn’t have hopes for a relationship. When he returned to his city we were still talking everyday with messages and sometimes Skype (again his initiative), but he wouldn’t let me know if we could see each other again. After two weeks I directly asked him if he would like to see me again or not. He said the needed time to think, because even though we could have a nice weekend together it would make things to be quite worse afterwords. And also he said, he had a bad experience in the past with a distant relationship, and that he promised himself to never do it again before he met me. First, I thought it was strange that he was mentioning a relationship after seeing each other only two times. Second, if he already knew from the past that he didn’t want a distant relationship, why would he buy a flight to visit me in the first place? I though that maybe we was just looking for a casual thing after all. On the other hand, if he is just looking for a casual thing, why wouldn’t he want to meet me just one more time before I go back to America? I still have some time before I leave to America, and it has been 1 month since we discussed this situation about seeing each other again. So, I don’t know if I should send him another message and tell him that we can still meet in case he change his mind. My intention was just to see him one more time and enjoy a nice time together, because I really liked this guy and this is unusual for me. So, even though we couldn’t have a relationship I would like to see him one more time. The problem is that I already made it clear before that I also didn’t want a distant relationship, and still he said that if we met things would be worst afterwords. Should I text him again and leave it open in case he changes his mind? Or do I risk damaging the nice terms in each we are now?
This is Dana I just want you to help with my issue. I met a guy I obsorved his character he is genuine, and kind to everyone. The thing is that he is making me to feel that he likes me but when I started to talk him as a friend, he just telling me tat he got crush on some one else & her age is 22 and few days after he Says tat he is loving a girl from the same premises and she is 24. I didn’t understand what he is trying to tell. My question for you is did he making to jealous or he just wants avoid me.
Your man has to realize that he can do fun stuff with you and not only with his friends. Therefore, go to a baseball game or basketball match. Just to be clear, you don’t need to shout, swear or drink a lot, you just need to have fun. Find great seats, buy two tickets and surprise him. If he likes hiking, find great tours; if he likes ComicCons, dress up as a Wonder Woman and go.

Hey there my ex broke up with me a 2 days ago and he said that he still wanted me in his life because he loved me but didn’t feel like there was anything there anymore. Now we had a little fight and he didn’t text me for two days and only texted me because I texted him. His response was that he wanted to break up and we talked about it in person and came to a conclusion together even though it was obvious I didn’t want to break up inket him go because that’s what he needed. We texted a bit before I went to hangout with some friends after we got done breaking up and I changed my relationship status to single but he hasn’t. He hasn’t even changed his profile pic of us? And I know he’s online all the time I can see it so what’s up does he just not care all that much about what it says am I over thinking it a little too much?


So I went. He was extremely shocked and happy to see me… but I was giving him a cold shoulder. I sat there and all of my questions and anger and sadness began to flow out! He listened closely and apologized genuinely but I felt hurt. I left after reeming him out for half an hour, and the next day he called me. He asked me to meet up for pizza in the park and we did. He kept thanking me for coming back to him, and apologizing for having hurt me.
You've been seeing this guy or girl at least once a week for a few months now. You're both sushi aficionados, his or her big brown eyes make you melt, or they even laugh out loud at The Mindy Project with you. It's great—except that you have no idea where things stand. They have yet to introduce you as their girlfriend or bring up being exclusive, and you're craving that "couple" title and the security that comes with it. Talk about blurred lines.
Trust me, your friends, your co-workers, your lab partner, your neighbor, and your barista at Starbucks are all sick and tired of hearing about this guy. And deep down inside, you’re probably a little bit tired of talking about him, too. When you focus so much of your attention on one person, you can slowly drive yourself insane. You’ll be constantly thinking about him, replaying your last conversation over and over again in your mind, wondering what he’s doing and who he’s doing it with, and wondering if he’s thinking about you at that exact moment. It’s not healthy, and it definitely won’t get you any closer to being in a relationship.
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