As much flack as classic romantic comedies receive for being unrealistic, some of their messages ring loud and true when explaining why men pull away. More often than not, experts explain most men withdraw for one of three reasons: they’re lost interest because he doesn’t see a future for your twosome, he’s afraid of becoming too vulnerable with you, or he feels rushed to commit to a more serious union.
This means that you should remain not only to be his girl but also his partner in crime. Doing adventurous things together is also vital to keep a relationship alive. You can open yourself to trying new things in the bedroom, if you have a low sex drive try to remedy it with a supplement like Provestra. Remember to be sure to consult your doctor first to see if taking it will not have any adverse effects on your health.
Have you ever caught a whiff of something and a person or place came to mind? It can be the lightest smell that brings you back to a certain time in your life. That is because our sense of smell is attached to our memory. Certain smells will always be associated to different memories in our brain. If you want a man to miss you, bringing up those happy memories of your past will do just that. Be sure that you wear your personal scent every time you see him. Each time the smell hits his nose, you will come to mind. It might also be a good idea to spritz a little bit of that scent around his house but be discrete. He shouldn’t see you doing this for obvious reasons. If you leave your scent around his house he’s going to have a hard time getting you off his mind and not missing you.
You don’t have to hang out with him all the time. You should also catch up with your friends often. Plan a girls’ night out or a girl’s trip, then share to him some fun moments with your friends. After spending a few days away from him, he may be happy you’re having a good time but he will also become jealous. If he sees how much fun you’re having, he’s going to want to come along on your next adventure. This way, you can also balance out the equation and do something without him which will ultimately make him miss you.
To a degree I understand the the above. I now how I deserve to be treated, I now what my worth is and I’ve told my guy I deserve better if it makes him run for the hill so be it. It’s ok to retreat to man gave but get a little bit of communication in any relationship I called respect. Even if it’s I need time out. I’m sick off of hanging in the side line while he tries to figure wither I mean enough or not. I beleive I myself and respect myself enough to know when enough is enough. Xx
I noticed he started to like me more and more, as he went from random every 2 days texts at the beginning to every day texts and 2 times a week calls and skype, from his side! and sending me pics of what he was doing so he become very devoted and i reciprocated too 🙂 it was great though we missed each other very much. in the “break up” he was just soooo negative about us,and thinking that we dont have future because he was afraid to fail me, like WTF! he was all about the plans! he was giving really like really silly excuses once we sat and talk.
You were the kind who used to put the entire world on hold to attend his call. Not anymore. Pick up his calls, but not every time. Give him an excuse that you were busy, and that you didn't notice he called. Don't be too rude or blatant, but tell him you have been occupied. Let him ring you. Talk to him sometimes, but in brief. For once, he'll wonder what the heck is up with you all of a sudden, but once he realizes that you aren't that available now, he'll be left with no other choice but to miss you, and wait till you get back.
If you find that you never ever want space from him, it’s time for you to start finding your own space anyway. It’s not healthy for couples to spend all their time together. It can cause you to neglect your friends, family, and self. You can start to rely too much on this man (and, in my mind, you always need just a dose of independence for yourself) and lose your identity.

It is a common belief that women are the more complicated party in a relationship. But men are not always simple to understand either! Because men can also be complicated, making them very hard to read. And most of the time, men tend to pull away without giving any reasons. If you are keen to find out more why men pull away, this article is for you. Read on.


It has been about a month and a half since we broke up. He broke up with me. At first we were talking constantly. Then I tried to not answer him so often or atleast wait a while to answer. We have a cat together that stays with him and he wants me to see our cat. But sometimes it seems like he wants me to come over to see him too. We stopped talking for about a week and when he was drunk he called me and asked me for a ride. I agreed but I didn’t want to end up staying with him. When I dropped him off he asked for a hug. I said sure. When I hugged him he told me he missed me and wanted me to come inside and see our cat. We ended up having sex. Which I regretted as soon as it happened. We talked the next day and agreed that we shouldn’t do that again. We talked a little bit after that but I was so sad. So for myself I stopped talking to him. He messaged me a couple days later just to talk. We had a really good conversation. He called me again when he was drunk about 5 days ago. On Christmas Eve. He wanted me to come over and cuddle with him and just hang out. I was really hesitant but agreed. When I went over there we just talked and laughed. It was nice. We talked the next day basically all day. Then he had to work so we stopped. I messaved him the next day telling him to drive safe if he had to work cause it snowed. He told me he was going out but he wasn’t at work. I felt like it was weird that he told me he was going out. Especially since we aren’t together anymore. But I didn’t say anything. I just told him have a good night and drive safe. He didn’t respond. I am trying to not talk to him and just leave him be. But I want to be with him and I miss him a lot. What am I suppose to do?
The thing to realize is that people with great relationships don’t have the great relationships because they know great relationship secrets or psychological loopholes of the male mind. Fundamentally, people in the best relationships all have one thing in common: they don’t have relationships with people who are not a good match for them. They don’t let them into their life.
So me and my ex- bf were together for over a year and half. We moved in after 5 months dating with his sister and her bf close to the end of the lease we started arguing, then we moved in with his friend and his gf. All he started to do was nap a lot and play his computer with his friend all the time. He cut down on being sexual active with me and we would get into petty arguments over stupid stuff. We only had a 6 month lease with them. Then we moved in with my mother she needed help and I know he didn’t want to but be did it because my mother needed it. Well ever since we moved in are fights became more frequent and he started to get even less sexual active with me…. It hurt and I would get mad at him all the time and we would dight all the time. Then it got worse when he completely stopped being sexual active. In not obbsessing over sex but that’s what two people do to show emotion and physical attraction. Well he barely talked to me and I had to start begging for him to even hangout with me. Are lease was almost up and we were planning on moving out together then one night I asked are we getting a place together still and he kept saying idk idk then I asked him do you still want to be with me and he said idk( I was hurt by this ) so I asked him again a yes or no answer and he pauses and quietly said no. I asked him if he could please leave and he did. Then the next day he grabbed some clothes and his computer and told me to give him time. I told him over a month ago that I loved him and he couldnt say it back he didnt say anything just that he knew I loved him.I’m so heart broken I didn’t talk to him for 4 days then finally I couldnt wait any longer to talk. We met up and talked he started getting mad and yelling at me saying how come I didnt see it or why it took so long for me to be willing to change and not get so mad all the time( I forgot to add that he’s not really emotional and doesn’t talk about him feelings a lot he keeps alot to him self) he got upset and startes to get out of my car and I grabbed his arm crying and pleading please don’t go and he said he had to. I about panicked I hopped out of my car into his and sat on his lap crying my eyes out telling him I loved him and he means so much to me he said he cares about me a lot and I was like I love you and he said I love you to for the first time ever. I said I was sorry it didnt go the way things were he said he needs time for him self. He needs to work on things alone I asked why cant we work together and he said no he has to do this by himself. I was so heart broken I sat on his lap crying telling him how much I care about him and telling him I dont want you to do this and he said he didnt want to do this but he had to. He told me we can still be friends and that we will hangout I also asked him if once in a while he would come stay the night(just lay there not do anything) and he said yes. I told him maybe its best if were friends and work back to the way we were and he said yes. He told me he has hope for is later but not right now. (I asked him if he missed me the 4 days we didn’t talk and he said yes.)He said he had to go and I grabbed him and hugged him and told him I love him so much and he was like I love you so much to. He hugged me tightly back and I asked him if he could wait till I left first and he said yes. That night I texted him told him I loved him and that I will always be here for him he replied same goes for you I hope you know that.
I m in a long distance relationship, my bf is in italy, I m in Iran , we saw eachother in october , he wanted to come with me to iran but he got so busy for work that everyday from 9 am to 9 pm he should work, He will be busy till september and we can t see eachother till then or even later, I miss him so much , so much i can t describe, I cant do my routines well anymore , i daydream all the time, and I m so desperate, so hopeless, I can t go see him sooner cause the money problems, I feel terrible , so hopeless I dont know when we can even meet again , although he tells me that we meet soon, i dont know even when. We had the best time together so many laughs so many hugs so many sweet moments, god this is killing me.
Now that you have your new and improved wardrobe on deck, it’s time to switch up your appearance even further. We definitely vote against you chopping off your hair or doing anything drastic that you may regret later. Instead, try out a new hair color that will really make you stand out. Switching up your hair is the equivalent to changing up your wardrobe. You’re drawing attention to yourself by changing up your look, and we guarantee it will leave your ex drooling! If you’ve always rocked the same hair color, try spicing things up, like with a balayage hair color treatment. This French hair color technique works on a variety of hair lengths, colors and textures - making it a flattering option for all women. Don’t be surprised if your ex doesn’t recognize you at first, but when he does, he will be floored...and maybe even a little turned on!
I was with my ex for 8 months, he came on to me very quickly told me he loved me within 3 weeks (we would talk a lot, at his request) He called me all the time, texted me that he loved me like 10 times a day. Everything was good between us. He is a single father of a little girl, he has full custody of her so I know he was busy a lot that’s why I hardly called and waited for him to call me back. He would always call me back when he said he would and that made me feel secure because he was consistent. But in March I started getting a gut feeling something was wrong, he wasn’t calling me back like before, our nightly talks started diminishing and the last time we had sex it was bad. We only got to see each other on the weekends and would have our alone time every other week, so it bothered me. I asked him a couple of times if everything was ok and he would say yes but I felt him distant. One morning after not getting his 3:45am good morning text, I texted him to wake up and he replied oh sorry I forgot I was putting gas. My intuition was bugging me so bad , so I told him that I was not happy that he was changing and I didn’t know why. He said he knew we weren’t talking as much but that didn’t change his feelings for me but that he was “busy” all of a sudden he is to busy to talk to me. I knew right there that his feelings had changed for me. He told me to do whatever I wanted like if I was the only one in the relationship. So I broke it off over a text. How sad is that! I then text him later on in the day and told him that I didn’t like how things ended that we should talk and he replied “I’m sorry its not going to work out. I am not talking or seeing anyone, I apologized for everything I just need time for myself” We broke up April 6 and I’m still having a hard time. The last time I saw him I was upset at him we had an argument but he told me “I love you, I want to spend the rest of my life with you. I’m not a little boy I know what I want and its you” A week later we brake up and he doesn’t want me. We were planning on moving in, in June and we were actively trying to conceive baby. I feel broken and its been hard to move on. He hasn’t reached out to me after all the love he claimed to have for me. I fell in love with him and here I am broken while he has moved on with his life posting away on his Instagram. He is private but I can tell he has been actively been posting pictures. Has anyone been through something like this? I saw the red flags but I chose to ignore them, he had only been single for 2 months he lied about it, the way he came on to me so quickly acting needy wanting to talk on the phone for hours, telling me he loved me within 3 weeks of meeting each other. I’m not sure but I have a feeling he is seeing someone else that’s why he didn’t give a sh*t about our relationship at the end.
Sometimes, it’s not about what he wants but what he doesn’t want. Maybe he’s not sure about committing to you. But what if he’s sure of not wanting you to commit to someone else? Make use of that fear of his. Casually drop this bomb in conversations that you have, you know, like how you’re tired of immature boys in your life who don’t want to commit, and how X (a friend of your friend’s) likes you. Let him connect the dots and then watch fear creep into his eyes. That’s one spectacular way on how to get him to commit!
Taking the time out of your day to get some exercise in is a great way to occupy your mind. There are numerous health benefits that come with exercising, whether it's something high-intensity or low-intensity. Going out for a relaxing run or hike can really soothe your aching heart. You can also bring some of your friends with you to make it even more fun and exciting. Having a group of people putting in the work with you can make it much more manageable and make it less boring.
Hi Adam, am from Nigeria, i have being talking to a guy i met on dating app for some days now he seems really good & we talked alot he lives in USA but promise to visit me soon in my country i really like him, but there’s something wired about him, not up to 5days we met he talks about sex & how he want us to make babies together for me i think is too early to say such things i feel his faking it, now i always text him first before we start a conversation though his a busy bussinnes man, i want to stop being the one to start the conversation first, what do you think. I don’t want to lose him either, i don’t know what to do.
Hi Eric, I have situation that you’ve probably dealt with. I was seriously dating /living with the love of my life and we were so inove that we wouldn’t even consider anyone else. We were together for a yr and 5 months when an ex-friend ( homewrecker) began conversing with him in posts on social media. I trusted him, so nenever thought there would be risk. He ended up leaving me for her, moved in with her, and has been playing “step-dad” to her rotten kids. We’ve tried several times to work it out because he says he knows he hurt me, he screwed up and now he loves 2 women and he’s confused and has not been able to choose. He knows she wrecked us but can’t seem to get completely back to me. He even calls her stupid, and says he’s miserable with her. Now, I’m not so stupid as to not know that actions speak louder than words, but I love him and want to put us back together. She will never be the woman that I am and I think part of him feels sorry for her while I do not!! She has always been extremely jealous of me, but I’m in NO way jealous of her. Can you offer any advice? I know this is the condensed version of too many details to list…I wish I could talk to you. I believe there is hope as I know men at 46 go through mid life crises. At 45 myself though, I know what I want…hope to hear your thoughts on this. Thanks…
This is stupid. Just because you miss her/him, means she/he is going to miss you back? Um, hello? Reality check! If she/he dumped you, they are relieved! They dumped you for a reason and most of the time it’s because of what you believe in or something not right about your personality. And if you’re obsessively stalking them on FacePace or whatever, they have GOOD reason to keep you out of their lives! Please STOP trying to encourage otherwise good people into stalking their ex! It’s really really creepy!
Jealousy can be a tricky beast with which to contend. However, there’s no easier way to make an ex miss you than to move onto another guy, or make him think you have. Whenever you go to a place where you know your special someone’ll be, make sure you bring another guy along. It could be just a friend or a potential new flame. As long as the ex sees you moving on, it is a near certainty that he will think of all the good times you had and miss what he once had. Guys are competitive and seeing you with another man is going to bring out the warrior in him. He’s going to want to win you back! Do not pay any attention to him during a time like this, instead say a quick “hello” and spend the rest of the night admiring the new man in your life. He’s going to go home thinking of you and it’s going to make him miss you terribly.
I experienced this just recently with my man as he was really stressed out with work and started being distant. I backed off and did not call or text him. I started letting him do all the work and it only took about a week for him to miss me like crazy. He even said he didn’t know what had come over him but he couldn’t stop thinking about me all day. In that time, I started a new workout and got busy. He loved that and now he’s giving me all this attention again. Don’t be scared to give your man space ladies and do you. It’s healthy and helps you to take better care of you too.
This is why I suggest trying something a little more conservative. Simply talk about the future as if he’s not in it. This is a logical and yet emotional thing to do, because he hasn’t made a commitment towards you. Obviously, you’re not going to pressure him to commit. So there’s only one direction to move and that’s apart. The end of the relationship.
I can vouch that your advice really works! I met a wonderful man after I started treating myself as valuable enough and realised what I want in a relationship. I bought both of your programs and studied them carefully and it made me see things differently. Not long after that, I met my Mr Right! Keep up the good work Matt and ladies, you CAN listen to him!

Answer: Cut him loose. If you think that he’s cheating on you or is interested in someone else, don’t pursue him. If you take the time to step back and he doesn’t show any effort to reel you back in, then, either way, it wasn’t meant to be. If you think that he’s attracted to another woman, find someone who will be fully committed to loving you. [Read: Should you ever forgive a cheating partner?]


He broke u with me in july . He ignored me after I did alot lf begging etc. i started to feel better do my own thing and little by little he contacted me. But They are short answers from him. No saying he misses me. No inclination that he wants to work on us again. I stay nuetral in texts bc I don’t want to seem needy but am I giving the right impression ?
My boyfriend for 4 months started calling and texting less as of the second week of January. It is true that he had some successive things happening one after the other which also prevented us for meeting since the new years eve. But despite that I let him know that I wasn’t happy with his careless behaviour. By the third week of January the date of his thesis submission approached and it just got worse. As I got bady ill for 4 days and he didn’t even get briefed because he did not ask how I was although he kept the conversation, I exploded on him and told him aaaalll I felt and went through and how he was absent when I needed him. My message just stayed unread on purpose till the morning and he tried to start a new normal conversation as usual like nothing happened. I was pissed off so I answered short, late, and tough. He stopped talking and by the time I cooled down he was already shut off. I ended up keeping the conversation somehow as he stopped initiating. By the following weekend I was near his area and we were talking so I asked if he feels like going out having some air. He made an excuse and I just headed home. We talked less and less through the following week, by thursday night we had a light chat and I asked how he was, he said that he was very tired and unhappy. As I asked why, is it going bad at work, my message just stayed unread till the morning. It was Friday 9 Feb. And he was quite responsive through the day, so I asked to meet and as he kept making excuses related to work, I just pushed more. So he just stopped responding to my messages and calls. Yes I know I did aaaall kinds of the things to avoid in these situations but I could not help but to see and understand what was happening to him that he had to express his unhappiness. After this incident I just disappeared too until valentine’s day at around 10 pm. I sent a brief apology message for my harsh words and putting the blame on him (when I exploded on him) while he was already having a hard time by himself. I wished him good luck with his upcoming thesis presentation (16 Feb) and wished him that he would never tell anybody again that he is tired and unhappy as he said to me the week before. I got an answer for this message that I was a wonderful girl and very understanding and I have nothing to apologise for and thanks for the good wishes and that I deserve the best and he hopes I will find what I deserve.
Hi I have been dating my boyfriend for two years now he used to be like the best thing ever made be feel loved like never before. But of recent he got in to medical school and it started stressing him out and he started giving me less attention and I was actually going through a lot during this period and he was so busy that he wasn’t giving me attention so I started complaining and fighting with him a lot and asking for more attention but eventually he started avoiding me and every time I am with him and his not doing what I want I would start crying and I could feel him drifting away more and more then I spoke to him one night and he said he was indifferent about the relationship and wants us to be friends I cried so much and begged him for a second chance he actually really cares for me this Part I know out of pity he gave me a second chance then a few days ago he sent a random text saying his sorry he ever hurt me and he loves me so much but he still doesn’t call or text me much it hurts cause I really love him and I don’t want to loose i just need advice on what to do because all I want to do is talk to him every time but I don’t want to chock him and if his online and doesn’t text me I start to feel like he doesn’t want to talk to me the thing is how do i give him space and still make him love me as much as he used to
You’re in a relationship and everything seems to be going swell. You hang out all the time, he sends you goodnight texts every night, and he even surprises you with cute little gifts at your office. But lately it seems like the relationship is lacking. He’s not doing those cute things he used to do and it almost seems like he doesn’t want to be in a relationship anymore. What gives? Here’s 10 common reasons why men pull away from women.
Answer: Just because dopamine is not being produced naturally, that doesn’t mean you can’t find ways to create it. You have to turn on the heat sometimes to bring the magic back. A relationship takes work, especially in the sex department. Find ways to turn him on and he will be running back into your arms. [Read: 13 spicy sex positions to heat up your bedroom romps]
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Thank u so much your email and articles I have been reading are great.! That are helping me realize that the relationship I’m in is not healthy. I meet this guy from a really good friend of mine.! He is a retired marine he is very different from the guys I’ve dated. Which is very different me, my parents like him a lot. But we argue alott. He says I have no discipline in my life he blames me for all the arguments we have, and its always my fault. I feel happy at moments but it seems I have to be very careful of what I say and do or how I act when I’m with him. He has left the house like 6 times.He says he really loves me but I don’t think he does. Or maybe I’m just trying to hard for this relationship to work which is not going to go anywere! Any advice will be greatly appreciated thank u very much.:)
Men who do this have an avoidant attachment style. Read ‘Attached’ by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller and ‘avoidant, bad boyfriends’ by Jeb Kinnison. After reading these I realised that I had been unhappily married for over twenty years to an avoidant man who ultimately cheated on me and left me. I’ve since met a man with a secure attachment style and the difference is night and day. DO NOT MARRY a man with an avoidant attachment style you will be miserable.
I have been in love with the same guy for about three years,in the beginning he told me he did not want anything serious …so I did distance my self for a little while, however now we spend all are time together…going to the gym, going to his friends place cooking together …he keeps contact with me through out the day…it seems very much like a relationship with out a title…
My advice to you is: if you are not contented with your status quo, then leave, and learn to genuinely love yourself first. Do you honestly want a man who would continue to get the benefits of a committed relationship but does not want a committed relationship with you? If so then carry on but trust me that leads to despair. Leaving him and loving yourself first will benefit the both of you in the long run.
maybe you should lead someone on for as long as you do before showing that kind of attention back. and you wonder why men think their not good enough for you resulting in pulling away. not being funny but too many women out there expect the men to try try and try only for THEM to get the so called ‘reward’. ever considered making it a mutual thing and not all female onesided letting the man feel like he has to earn some kind of reward..
“Absence makes the heart grow fonder” the old adage goes. One refrain women repeat is that they wish that special someone would miss them. And with that wish, women want to know how to make that special man in their life miss them. And this want is very normal, as a matter of fact, during the early stages of a relationship guys always tell us how much they miss us and have no problem expressing themselves emotionally. But after a little while together or apart this 'expressing himself' thing starts to take a nosedive. He may be your husband or significant other who you’re apart from; he may be an ex with whom you wish to reunite; or he may be a friend with whom you want something more together. If you want him to miss you there are a few ways to make that happen. Often times getting a man to miss you is nothing more than playing a few little mind games with him. No matter who “he” is, here are fifteen sure fire ways to make him miss you.
Let the royals care about titles. One of the biggest mistakes you can make during the early hook is to suggest or even hint that things have started to formalize by assigning the labels “girlfriend” and “boyfriend.” Even if you feel like things are going in the right direction and that your relationship is getting more serious, there’s an extremely wide gulf between just being someone you’re dating and someone who has been officially proclaimed a boyfriend. What your man wants you to know but won’t tell you is that affixing titles to the relationship too early is like holding up a cross to a vampire. We will often run fast and hard when we feel like we’re being boxed into something we don’t want or is too premature.
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Many relationship gurus may tell you to abstain from sex if you want your boyfriend's attention and make him crave you even more. But that's exactly not the point here. If you and your guy have already taken your relationship to the bed, put on a stellar performance and leave him panting for more. Feel free to take initiative in the sack, dominate and satisfy him like never before. So if he is not with you and starts fantasizing, all he will think about is you and only you.

Another reason your man act differently is based on fear. Maybe he’s been hurt in the past. Or maybe the idea of commitment simply petrifies him. If you two can discuss whatever the issue is and begin to deal with it, there’s a good chance that you can then begin to create something real and lasting together. Often, fears crop up in a relationship because a person wants to deal with those doubts and move past them. If you can be a steady, reassuring partner that isn’t pushing too hard, while he deals with what’s scaring him, you two just might build a foundation together.
My boyfriend of a year and I has gotten into the second fight of our relationship. Like really over the top. Drinking was involved and he said some pretty hurtful things n it became physical on my end. I then proceeded to say some hurtful things. And I know they hurt because it hurts me to even think of what I said. Four five days went by of no contact. I reached out to him via private call. He answered and it was stale. You could hear he was happy to hear my voice but you can tell he didn’t want to talk. So I presumed in asking if I could stop by to see him later. He said yea and he’ll call when he got home. I guess he never made it home because he never called lol. J/k.
This does not necessarily mean you are a boring person. It may just be that the two of you don’t have much in common and he’s noticed it sooner than you. There’s really not much you can do about that. If the two of you don’t have similar interests or you simply don’t jive, it’s probably best to stop the relationship before it gets any further. He could also become bored with you if the two of you tend to do the same things all the time, for instance: dinner date at the same restaurant every Wednesday, same conversations being repeated over and over again. If that is the case, try switching up your date ideas and finding new things to do and talk about with each other.
You already have your revamped wardrobe, and that balayage hair treatment has your entire appearance on fleek. Now, all you need to do is whip your body into shape. After being in a relationship with your ex, it’s possible that you packed on a few love pounds, and now’s the time to shed them! Reactivate that gym membership, throw on your favorite pair of sneakers, and dust off your Lululemon pants. It’s time to sculpt your “revenge body” that will make your ex regret the day the two of you parted ways. By looking and feeling amazing from the inside out, your ex will know that you’ve moved on, and you’re life is headed in a positive direction. It will definitely crush his ego a bit, and he will start to reminisce about all the good days the two of you shared. Prepare to receive a phone call or a text message from him spilling his guts about how much he misses you!
I’m also in a relationship that i believe i committed myself too soon and i let him know of this. His response was that he wasn’t sure if he would even be available because his job might transfer him. I think he just used this reason as a way out. But, yet I’ve tried to put such boudary by letting him know that since we don’t want the same things we could just be friends. And although, I was hoping he wouldn’t take me up on it he did. So we stopped seeing eachother for a couple of weeks, but it’s been awful and I’m dying to see him again. So, when he playfully suggested to meet him again I totally went for it. But I’m afraid, this will put us right back to where we started. Do you think there is any way to put this relationship back in the right track? or there’s no way to save it now? I would appreciate any help you can give me.. Thanks

In addition to the pulling away he is very cruel when he drinks. Calling me horrible names and tries to make me feel beneath him. I know this is huge red flags but love makes us do crazy things. We’re both sexually open minded but he tells me I’m a liar about talking about having another woman intimately. I feel him and I aren’t ready for this. At least I’m not ready. It’s a unhealthy dysfunctional relationship and while he has his faults I know I push him to the limits. (Blowing up how phone etc)


We have been together for10 yrs have 2 boys moved in and out with eachother n this time break up was bad i even said he was dead top me ….2weeks pass since ive moved out n no conyact silence from both ends he blocked me off of social media n just yesterday he created a new fb page to text me ” what can’t speak to the dead “? What do i do next i love himn want him back to keep forever … but I’m that type that is needy clingy. And responds to anything he says or does he knows he had me like that …what do i do? He thinks the worse of me and blamed me for everything he also thinks that I’m playing him for a fool but I’m none of the things he says n thinks i am help me
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I can vouch that your advice really works! I met a wonderful man after I started treating myself as valuable enough and realised what I want in a relationship. I bought both of your programs and studied them carefully and it made me see things differently. Not long after that, I met my Mr Right! Keep up the good work Matt and ladies, you CAN listen to him!
If you’re going through this situation right now, don’t worry, you’re not alone. Getting a guy to commit seems like one of the hardest things in the world. We’ve all heard stories about men being commitment-phobes who are deathly afraid of having their independence ripped away for them, so you can’t really blame the guy for dragging his feet when it comes to locking you down, can you?
Being apart from someone you care about can be tough, especially if you two share a deep bond and you do many activities together. Not having your boyfriend around for a substantial period can seem like torture at times. However, instead of letting yourself be consumed by sadness, find a more positive mindset. It is important for you to accept that being apart from your boyfriend is healthy, you both need some time on your own. Wanting to have some time to yourself is not a bad thing and it is part of any healthy, long-term relationship.

#7 Withdraw if they seem too hesitant. Not much will make a guy commit faster than the fear of losing you if they don’t. However, you can’t give them an ultimatum. Just simply stop talking as much if he starts showing you he’s not ready to commit. This might scare him into realizing how much you really mean to him. [Read: 15 ways to get a man to chase you and fall hard]
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